They go out of their way to make us late for work!
Can you imagine the CEO and board of directors for Translink sitting around their desks on Monday morning reviewing the issues related to maintaining and expanding the infrastructure of the transit system throughout the lower mainland and intentionally saying to one another “let’s design a system that will cost millions of dollars, take a long time to build, offer an opportunity to create employment, create a bottom line and profit line for Translink as a business and then in turn decide the fate of all the passengers and let’s make sure that ‘they’re’ all late for work!”
“Brilliant deduction Watson, brilliant deduction”, highly successful management members, structural, architectural and design engineers to mention a few all sitting around the table in the board room collaborating a system with the malicious intent of making everyone late for work and not only making them late for work, going out of their way to do so.
The statement is so ludicrous it’s laughable and perhaps that’s the reason it’s caught my attention so much.
Standing at the skytrain station yesterday on route from one part of the city to the other at around 9 a.m. the first train to pass me by in the station darted right past the platform and didn’t stop.
A loud boisterous voice uttered the statement “you know we go out of way to get here early to get to work and they go out of their way to make us late for work”
Laughable and utterly ridiculous were some of the initial thoughts I had when I couldn’t help but hear the comment.
A large part of the lower mainland was greeted in the morning with a dusting of fresh snow, sticking in some parts of the city and not in others.
It’s the first snow fall actually of the season in the bounds of the city and a beautiful sight at that, especially considering the time of year and the decorations that adorn different areas of the city, including the large beautifully decorated Christmas trees.
For many commuters, of which I typically am not one, the morning had some variations to the daily routine. Some of those variations included delays getting to work due to the snow whether they were driving, walking or taking the skytrain.
It was interesting as I processed the experience as I overheard the comments from the disgruntled passenger and I spent time thinking on the insidious nature of the wording and belief that he shared so openly with all those within earshot.
I began to imagine what his world must be like in his mind that he seemed so instinctively gravitate towards the negative aspects of a situation that was obviously beyond his control and yet was the situation really that dire?
What level of thinking, whether conscious, unconscious conditioned or practiced does it take to instantly and automatically think and experience life from such a negative aspect versus thinking, experiencing and believing in the more positive aspects of what was occurring or could potentially be occurring?
What other conversations could he have chosen to put his energy into that would have created a much different and perhaps better experience in those moments as he was talking with the nearby stranger?
Instead of making perhaps the best use or more opportune use of his time engaging with another human being and perhaps getting to know about someone else, perhaps share a kind word or compliment, he choose to put his focus into a negative spin on why the train had passed by without stopping and then from that created an even bigger story in his mind and perhaps in the minds of others around him towards what seemed to him to be a very aggravating moment of frustration.
So what drives his level of thinking? Is he even aware of the level of thinking and how detrimental it can become over a course of a lifetime to how he experiences life?
How insidious is thinking such as his and how quickly can it affect those around him? I can begin to see where ‘crowd mentality’ comes into play. He could easily persuade or perhaps poison the minds of those around him, so now instead of just having one disgruntled passenger on the platform there could become two three or more. And what happens when they all get on the same band wagon, sharing the same sentiment and they all begin grumbling, complaining and perhaps even believing for real that “we go out of our way to get to work on time and they go out of their way to make us late”.
The beginning of what creates wars and/or riots, allowing others to do our thinking for us.
Our thinking is powerful, our thoughts are powerful. Our thoughts become our beliefs as we continue to repeat those thoughts over and over and over again in our minds.
Would we really want to believe that “they go out of their way to make us late for work”? How different would our day’s experience be if we choose to think “they go out of their way to make it easy for us to get to work”.
I never want to allow someone else to do my thinking for me and in order to do that I must always be commitment to the freedom of choosing my own thoughts and being very vigilant in the thoughts I the thoughts I choose to think.
The Soul of Money with Lynn Twist
Intention what is the definition to you?
The online dictionary refers to intention as an act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result.
How often do you and/or I wonder or get curious about the power of our intentions? I have intentions everyday and yet how much time do I actually spend being very mindful of the intention that I’d like to set with all things that I do both in my profession and personal life.
And at the same time is there a distinction between my personal and professional life or are they one in the same? Is my lifestyle really who I am in all of the various roles and persona’s that I take on at any one time as I weave throughout my day? Or do I compartmentalize the various duties and responsibilities that I have both for myself and others?
I’m currently reading a number of books and one that’s sparked my inspiration for a conversation around intention is the Soul of Money by Lynn Twist.
The book is a deep exploration of how the energy and attachment of our intention towards money both personally and in business can lend itself to the experience of a life of sufficiency or lack.
In the pages that I’ve read thus far the author shares a very honest assessment of her own experiences of chasing the almighty dollar for reasons that at the time, seemed to make sense. Additionally she shares the pivotal points in her life when she made a conscious shift to a more deliberate and purposeful connection towards her relationship and experience with money.
So what does intention have to do with our accumulation and or flow of money in the context of our day to day life?
The author suggests through her own real life experience that the energy attached to money in large part dictates our own personal experiences related to lack, scarcity, abundance, personal wealth and freedom.
Ironically as the stories continue to unfold the wealthiest of individuals of which she shares their corporate and financial success the reality is that the personal freedom that most of these individuals have been chasing by accumulating tremendous financial wealth are undoubtedly not as happy as those many others who don’t have the same economic stability in their life.
It saddened me quite honestly to read about a number of highly successful corporate women who were working so hard to balance the challenges and demands of the life with the heartfelt intent and belief that what they were doing was in fact best for the children and their families when in fact the opposite was quite true.
These women had become so accustomed to the routine of their life and the commitment they had to providing a certain level of affluent comfort and privilege to their families, that their conditioned response to their daily schedule left them exhausted, short sighted and not even aware that their children’s lives were passing before them.
For many it came as a big awakening to realize that the freedom they were seeking so desperately through chasing the almighty dollar was leaving them shortsighted on the values that they believed they held sacred in the raising of their children.
The desire to earn more, have more, attain more all with the belief that it was for the sake of the kids and the freedom and luxuries it would bring to them, and yet the harsh reality was that the kids were being raised by nannies and housekeepers.
Sure the money was plentiful but what was the money being used for? The money was being used for providing services to attend to the needs of the children that their mothers were not there to make available to them.
So at what price do we step out of our integrity as we hold fast to a false belief that everything we do is for the best intention or over all wellbeing of our children and our loved ones?
The struggle with money, I believe that many of us experience at some point in time, and I certainly can attest to my own challenges, up’s and down’s, lack and abundance over the course of my lifetime to date. The ebb and flow, the peaks and valleys and yet in any particular time of either feast or famine I ask myself how much time have I really spent in contemplation of the intention by which I set my relationship with money, my quest or desire with money and my purpose in either having or sharing money?
I’ve been exploring my hidden or unconscious beliefs with money for quite a long period of time now and have discovered many fascinating tidbits of insight, inspiration and ahha moments that have shifted my mindset many times.
I don’t know that I’ve really ever spent enough time or perhaps the kind of time that I’d really like to spend exploring how critical my intention is in all things that I do or participate in whether related to money or not.
I know firsthand that I like I’m sure many of you have very often just acted, reacted or behaved from a conditioned way of being without any specific amount of deliberate and purposeful thinking about either the desire or need of money for a particular purpose.
One of the many things I’ve learned over the time that I’ve explored where and how I’ve adopted my money beliefs and the relationship that I’ve shared with money is to become aware when my thoughts have been connected to fear.
Fear of lack, fear of not enough, fear of scarcity, fear of no deserving, fear of unworthiness all related to money.
In the discovery of those various fears and the awareness that I’ve brought to my life being able to identify those fears I’ve learned to put down or perhaps let go of the judgments from the past that I’ve held towards myself and just look at the lesson from a point of gathering facts.
From the context of those facts I’m able to make better choices that support my personal growth and level of personal achievement which all affect my level of self confidence and acceptance of self.
Today with the content of the book so far I’m inspired to take more accountability in my life by being much more purposeful and deliberate in my considerations of the intention I have behind all decisions I make other than just money.
So with what intention do I desire money and with what intention do I choose to share, gift or tithe money towards causes or events that I believe in and choose to support?
If I’m able to move out of the need for money from the perspective of being fearful of not having any and I’ve found that to be successful over the last several years, I wonder how much more integrity I can create in all areas of my life by choosing in each and every transaction related to money to be purposeful, deliberate and well intentioned in my desire for money.
Intention~ the act or instance of determining mentally upon some action or result. What do you intend?
Attitude of Gratitude ~ Are You Willing to Play?
I was sitting and contemplating my life as I often do and thinking about the power of feeling loved by someone.
Actually I contemplate my life daily in different aspects as I explore different focuses that bring bigger questions for me to ponder.
I’m always excited to explore new possibilities of who I am, why I’m here and what do I need to do to show up more powerfully?
As I was contemplating parts of my life in terms of a constant running theme in my life, I found myself considering my life journey from birth to adulthood and what the impact of being placed for adoption had in my life.
As I explored many aspects of thought and related it to the meaning that I may have given that experience both inwardly and outwardly I recognized that thoughts, feelings and beliefs of abandonment were significant issues that have captured the attention of both my conscious and subconscious mindset.
Aware that I can choose to look at my adoption in one of two ways, either that of a gift in which I was loved SO much by my natural parents that they opted for a better life than they could give me on their own and/or I could choose to believe that I was placed for adoption because they were unable to love me.
Based on the way I choose to view their decisions has tremendous impact on the thoughts and beliefs I have about myself and in turn those thoughts and beliefs drive my innate nature and motivation for the experiences I create in my life.
In reflection I can see that many aspects of myself that I’ve not been able to accept over the course of years that has passed has found me making decisions in terms of relationships that have not been fulfilling or satisfying and have supported the message that I’ve been reminding myself of that I’m indeed not worthy or deserving.
So what in the makeup of my beliefs gives me the power to change and/or alter my beliefs at any one period of time in my life?
With awareness I can make choice. With choice I have options. With options I have opportunity. With opportunity I have potential for greatness in all things that I do.
So coming back to my initial thoughts about what is the power of feeling loved by someone?
How many ways can we express the love we have for someone in the manner in which we interact with others? What means of demonstration do we have available to us to share with others the sense of joy and appreciation they bring to our life when we stop to think about how much they mean to us and the reasons that they do?
We have multiple ways, actually probably too many to count and a few that are considered the standards of which many are greatly appreciative.
It could be simply the words “ I love you” or simply cooking a meal, opening the door or even a smile. It doesn’t have to be elaborate or extensive in order for us to offer a gesture of love and appreciation to another human being.
How much impact can sharing a thoughtful word or gesture of love have in someone’s life? Have you ever wondered about that?
As I was thinking about it today I spent time recalling the looks on my parents face when we were kids and we’d open Christmas presents around the tree.
My parents had more fun out of watching our reactions than they did for anything they could possibly open for themselves. And isn’t that the way generally speaking of parents who love and want so much happiness for their children?
So back to how does it feel if we know we are loved? How does it feel to other know that someone took the time to think about us in addition to all the other responsibilities they had to attend to in their day?
To reach out and to share with us that we are important to them in their life and/or that they appreciate some talent, gift or trait of which we possess that they honor and celebrate.
Imagine knowing that in all that we are, we could inspire someone to value our personality, our character, our determination, our values, our beauty, our commitment, or simply our presence.
One way to express such love is to send a card, a simple and in some respects and old fashion gesture of kindness and communication. And yet not so simple; perhaps elegant, comical, inspirational, insightful, colorful, creative and more importantly than all of that something personalized and customized for the benefit of that person that means so much.
I love writing letters and cards and mailing them to people. It’s a gift I’ve given myself for most of my lifetime as far back as I recall, actually back to my early teenage years.
We’re so fortunate now in the time that we live and experience the advancements of technology that allow us instant gratification and instant connection with people from around the world. However although it’s quite often instant is it meaningful? Is it set with intention for spreading love and kindness? Or is it by obligation, conditioning, responsibility, or maybe even guilt, maybe ritual, cultural reasons, patterns, or reaction as opposed to proactive reasons for reaching out.
And how powerful and meaningful is the exchange? How well received was the communication? How heartfelt was the intention when the communication was initiated?
In North America we have a couple of upcoming nationally recognized occasions to express gratitude and kindness to one another. In Canada we prepare ourselves to honor and give thanks to our Veterans on the 11th of November. With our neighbours to the south they prepare to give thanks over the carving of Turkey at Thanksgiving on the 22nd of November. Shortly afterwards both our fine countries give thanks and blessings to one another as we celebrate Christmas on the 25th of December.
A powerful time of year in which we have several opportunities to give thanks for ourselves and for those around us whether we know them on a personal level or not.
We have many opportunities to express gratitude for the simplest of gestures such as perhaps opening a door, returning a shopping cart, buying someone a cup of coffee as a surprise, or giving someone a hug.
One of the ways in which I love to share the thoughts, emotions and feelings in my heart with those that I both love and appreciate is by sending them a card.
If you feel inspired by any of your own thoughts and/or ideas of the importance of raising the level of gratitude in your day and in your weekly practice then I would invite you to consider participating in the following 30 day gratitude challenge.
This is an opportunity to expand your reach into another person’s life and a means by which to expand your heart and in turn your vibration.
Gratitude is the quickest way to get out of fear and to shift our focus from what’s not working in our life to what is working in our life. Gratitude for someone else literally will make your heart feel good.
I challenge you right now to imagine a person in your life that you care deeply about and imagine them opening a card that you sent to them with your own words telling them how much you care and imagine the look on their face when that smile begins to stretch across their lips. All because you took a moment from your day to think about someone that means something to do you and you wrote them a card.
What a precious gift that is!
You can send a card to anyone you like even if you don’t know them! I sent a card last week to a gentleman from the telephone banking that helped me with an issue that I needed to resolve. He was so gracious and so generous in his time and solutions to the problem that I finished the call and felt inspired to let him know how much his kindness affected my day. I wanted him to feel appreciated for the effort he made knowing that most of his day is spent with faceless interactions and quite often with people who complain and don’t give thanks for the assistance he gives them.
It felt good to know that I was able to recognize him with the simple actions of picking a card, writing my thoughts, and addressing it knowing it would be placed in the mail that same night.
So who do you know that would love to receive a card from you?
I challenge you that each day for 30 days you could easily find someone to take 5 minutes to write a card to.
One card a day for 30 days and at the end of that 30 days imagine how good you’ll feel knowing not only did you share a piece of your gracious heart with another person, that you brought a smile to their face and that gets reciprocated when they either call you or send you a message of thanks to acknowledge that they received the card. So you actually get to feel good about it at least three times.
I’d say pretty tremendous returns on the investment of your time and effort simply by opening your heart.
So what do you say? Are you willing to get started?
Interested in checking it out and increasing the level of gratitude you bring to the world and your local and also immediate community?
Loving intentions and gratitude,
If you’re willing to play click here: www.socgratitude.com/nancybattye
“Increasing Self Esteem in FIVE Simple Steps is Entirely Realistic” Workshop Starts Oct 16th Langley BC
“Increasing Self Esteem in Five Simple Steps is Entirely Realistic”
Are you ready for CHANGE in your current life?
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around your happiness and freedom?
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immediately daily and for your future?
WOULD NOW BE A GOOD TIME?
If you said YES to any of these questions then this workshop is for YOU!
You will learn how to:
Identify fears around ~ Money, Relationship, Health, Business/Career, Family, Spirituality
Journal for Success
Explore what you are afraid of in your current life
Understand the power of forgiveness
Use gratitude as a daily practice
When: Oct 16, 23, 30 Nov 6, 13, 20 Time: 7:00 – 9:30 p.m.
Where: Mystic Waters Ranch Langley
Cost: $ 150.00 6 Sessions Class Size: Limit 20
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